Young women especially have something invested in being nice people, and it’s only when you have children that you realise you’re not a nice person at all, but generally a selfish bully.”
In other school business, I missed the whole PTA pick, as I was unfortunately called away to Tokyo on important business, but my friend was there and I have to tell you I am absolutely disgusted with the way things were handled.
Basically, there was an observation class first and the meeting afterwards, apparently the incumbent honchos went up and down the corridor with lists of how many points people had and naming names very loudly and told those people to ‘not even think about going home before the meeting’.
There followed 2 hours of bullying and shaming. ‘ What will your son think about you if you don’t take part in this?’
“ Why should you not have to do it when everyone else has.
No one was exempt, work, sick relatives, single parenthood, no excuses.
One woman said she had to leave to pick up her younger child from a child minder and they said ‘you’re not leaving until this has been decided.’
At the end two of four classes were undecided. There are 5 available ‘positions’ for each class ( = 10) and 15 people between the classes that didn’t have the required points, ( strangely, not including me who doesn’t have a point to her name but ( fortunately) apparently not on any list either.)
Finally it was decided that EVERYONE will have a job, and 3 people were assigned to each job, in theory this should make less work for all concerned but, and I think the other gals in Japan who read this would back me up here, it won’t, somehow it’ll transform into 3 times as much damn work for all.
There is supposed to be zero tolerance for bullying in school, but as we’ve seen, women bullying each other is sanctioned, condoned, expected, teachers bullying students is ignored, it’s just the kids who can’t bully each other.
These are the tactics that enabled China to enforce it’s one child policy.